Hey girl! Long time no chat, life has been crazy (always the excuse). Today Ammy Abraham & I are having a chat with you about insecurities.Take a second and truly think about your insecurities (hard to admit some, but be real with yourself). I don't know about you, but I have many. Some I've already overcame, some I'm still dealing with. The definition of insecurity is uncertainty or anxiety of oneself; lack of confidence; a state of being open to threat.
Insecurities come in many forms and they root in our lives due to many things. Some things insecurities can stem from include; recent failures or rejection, what people have told us, what society says, comparison, social anxiety, perfectionism, etc.
For Ammy, her insecurity stemmed from an unhealthy relationship. She was dating a guy that was unfaithful to her which caused her to believe she wasn't good enough. She questioned herself, her physical appearance, her personality, basically her identity. This was all due to the discomfort of her boyfriend cheating. She allowed this to happen in her life and starting accepting it as true. It wasn't until after praying and finally letting the relationship go, that she gained her confidence back.
One of my insecurities is my nose. I've always felt like I had a HUGE nose. I've been made fun of for having a big nose. In addition, society says that thin pointed noses are beautiful. Hence anything other than that are known as ugly. One point in time, I really hated my face and I wanted to do surgery to "fix it". I wasn't happy to look in the mirror. I started to make what people and society said fact. it wasn't until I accepted my features that I felt confident in how God made me.
How To Deal With It
Some people never overcome their insecurities because they don't accept them. Recognizing your insecurities & trying to think of the root cause truly helps. If your insecurity was caused by a person, the first thing you need to do is forgive. Forgiveness doesn't make their actions right, but it frees you from having that negativity it in your heart. Ammy had to forgive her ex in order to move forward. It doesn't mean she accepts that he cheated or that she will forget it. It means that she is strong enough to move forward without the negativity.
Another step is to start looking at your insecurity in a different way. I don't look at my nose as a huge nose, I look at it as the nose that God gave me. Change your perception. Find the good in the bad. Although I felt like my nose was big, I did find that my nostrils are small & I like them. This allowed me to accept my features.
Create new habits that will help you grow. Self love plays a huge part.
Practice Self Love
Theres a saying, you can't love others if you don't love yourself. Loving yourself does not mean being obsessed with yourself. It means, accepting yourself for who God created you to be. Accepting the good, the bad, and the ugly about yourself. You can change for the better once you realize who you are. Your past does NOT define you. Stop telling yourself that you're not good enough. You are more than enough. Speak life into yourself & watch how it will continue flowing in all areas of your life. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are worth it!
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