Hey girl! Long time no chat, life has been crazy (always the excuse). Today Ammy Abraham & I are having a chat with you about insecurities.Take a second and truly think about your insecurities (hard to admit some, but be real with yourself). I don't know about you, but I have many. Some I've already overcame, some I'm still dealing with. The definition of insecurity is uncertainty or anxiety of oneself; lack of confidence; a state of being open to threat.
Insecurities come in many forms and they root in our lives due to many things. Some things insecurities can stem from include; recent failures or rejection, what people have told us, what society says, comparison, social anxiety, perfectionism, etc.
Girl Chat time! Let’s be real, we all have fears in our life. One of my biggest fears is the unknown of what may happen. I like to be in control as much as possible, and I’m consistently working on this fear. When I don’t know what’s going to happen I start getting anxious and I make up my own outcomes in my head. I freak out and end up scared. Now I understand my mom when she would think I was dying if I didn’t text her within an hour of not being home. But, now I put my trust in God and I feel at peace. I no longer fear of what may happen, now I look forward to what will happen & focus on the current moment.
First things first I’m the realest. Just kidding, so cliche, thanks Iggy. Anyways, when it comes to your fears, something that has helped...
You feel like you’re trying so hard but you’re always failing? Like no one see’s your worth? Like you always mess up? Like you always fall short?
I have felt unworthy SO many times in my life. Sometimes I still have unworthy feelings come up. Feeling unworthy is one of the worst feelings. If I had to pinpoint reasons that lead to these feelings it would be some of the following:
Many times we put unrealistic expectations on our life. It goes hand in hand with perfectionism. We plan things out and when the results aren’t as expected we beat ourselves up. We blame ourself. Guess what?! You're not PERFECT and NEVER will be! If you fail, it's OKAY! If you mess up, it's OKAY! Learn from your experience and move forward. Don’t keep dwell...
“The struggle is real” series is about certain struggles that I’ve been through or currently going through. My first topic is
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Do you ever just long for real, authentic friendships? A ride or die? Squad goals?
Just to give you a little background on myself. I am very extroverted, I LOVE people. So much so, that I can be “friends” with a fly. How can an extrovert struggle with friendships? Isn’t that an introverted person’s problem? I’m here to let you know, it’s not! Many people struggle with friendships, no matter what “vert” you are. Our struggles may seem a little different but the underlying topic is the same! I still struggle with friendships from time to time but here are a few things I’ve learned about friendships:
If you’re creative in ANY way shape or form, you’ve probably hit times in your life of a creative block. This is when you have so many ideas but you just don’t know how to execute them OR maybe you want to execute something but you don’t have any idea how to (happens to me daily both ways). A lot of times this can be discouraging and you decide not to pursue your initial idea because you don’t know where to go about it. BUT I’m here to tell you its okay to have brain malfunctions; don’t let that stop YOU! I will share with you 5 ways to stay creative.
Write down ideas as they come.
Out of nowhere so many ideas can rush in and ignite our imagination opening our creative side and allowing us to wonder on these ideas. If we don’t write them down we tend to forget them and get mad when we cant r...